Three Things

Karen Kingsbury, New York Times bestselling author, states that there are three primary things our loved ones needs from us. These are: time, touch, and testimony. The recognition that these actions are important to any relationship is not new or revolutionary. They are, indeed, truths that grow out of our common human experience. Let’s take […]

The Benefit of the Doubt in Marriage

Veronica and I have pretty much given up on regular broadcast and cable television. More often than not, we find ourselves watching a Hallmark movie. These romantic comedies present consistently beautiful scenery and handsome, energetic characters. However, the plots are, with some exceptions, stereotypically the same: An attractive, sophisticated character accidently runs into a handsome, […]

Husbands Love Your Wives

Growing a healthy marriage involves many challenges and much hard work. Let’s face it, we men all too often leave the hard work of relationship building to our wives. We easily assume that they know more about such things and we simply lack confidence in our own relational ability. But we need to give ourselves […]

Small Words with Great Power

We have heard the nursery rhyme from early childhood: “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never harm me.” As well-meaning as this sounds, this brave statement is simply untrue. Yes, sticks and stones can break bones; and the wrong word at the wrong time can break the soul. But then, words […]

Children Are a Blessing: Yes or No?

Psalm 127 states: Children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring a reward from him.  Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. These few poetic verses emphasize a principal that runs throughout the Bible: children are valued and loved by God. […]

The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Child

“What do you think,” Wendy asked me during Eric’s well-child visit. “Mark and I want to attend but we are uncertain about leaving Eric.” Mark and Wendy had heard about the upcoming marriage enrichment retreat for young couples which was one of several such retreats sponsored by their church and led by a skilled family […]

A Mutually Affirming Marriage: Built from Scratch

The wedding ceremony exhibits commitment, excitement, joy, hope. It is the first step into the marriage where two become one. No couple enters marriage with the expectation of failure; the newly minted bride and groom anticipate the future with the expectation of expanding love and intimacy. Often the onlookers view the smiling couple as they […]

Communicating Negative Feelings in The Family

Many families are hurting because they spend too much time in negative, destructive, communication cycles. Harsh, accusatory words from one partner often leads to a defensive, attacking response from the other. Such negative interactions take up so much of our family time because we fail to handle negative emotions in healthy constructive ways. Certainly we […]