Affirmation Begins in the Family

A newborn baby whimpers and squirms right after exiting the birth canal. His mother picks him up and hugs him to her breast. “Now, ” she coos. “It’ will be all right.” He settles down and roots for her nipple. A three-month-old awakens from her nap and glances about the room. Her eyes focus on […]

Marriage Under Construction

Mutually affirming marriages do not just happen. Husbands and wives must work at creating an atmosphere in which their interdependence is expressed in ways that promote growth. Successful marriages are always under construction.Husband and wives are challenged to put their marriages together step by step. It is like building a model airplane. You have to […]

Independence, Dependence, Interdependence

Many people, have a rather cynical attitude about romantic love and the commitment it calls forth. It is fashionable today for men and women to talk about “independence.” To depend on someone, even a mate, seems to be a sign of weakness, or at least, incomplete fulfillment. As my wife and I have moved into […]

Hilarious Giving

Do you want to have some fun this new year? Then give! Paul points this out as he encourages the Christians in Corinth to help fellow church members suffering through famine:  Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each of you should give what you […]

Introducing the Married People’s Resource Center at Trinity Baptist

There are many books which promise to open the door to a happy marriage. Some have been around a long time (such as The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman). But, then, every now and then we pick up a new book and find it to be winsome as well as helpful. One such book […]

The Value of Thankfulness

“Gratefulness is a central theme at this time of year. It turns out that giving thanks—and giving back—can yield a bounty in health rewards.” At first glance one would think this quote was taken from a religious publication such as a magazine or Bible study lesson. But no. I came across these words in a […]

Bad Habits Can Hurt Your Marriage

According to a recent study, unwelcomed, unpleasant habits seriously stress a marriage. The bad habits are likely to become more irksome over time if allowed to persist. Relatively minor, unpleasant behaviors may be tolerated at first, but with time they are likely to grow stronger and more bothersome each time they occur. This really shouldn’t […]

Recharging the Battery Pack: Getting Ready for the Second Decade of Marriage

  As couples move into the second decade of marriage, stress comes from every side, putting pressure on the family relationships. Usually, by this second decade of marriage, there are children with their persistent needs. In addition, one or both partners is likely to be caught up in the demands of a growing career. The […]

Three Things

Karen Kingsbury, New York Times bestselling author, states that there are three primary things our loved ones needs from us. These are: time, touch, and testimony. The recognition that these actions are important to any relationship is not new or revolutionary. They are, indeed, truths that grow out of our common human experience. Let’s take […]

The Benefit of the Doubt in Marriage

Veronica and I have pretty much given up on regular broadcast and cable television. More often than not, we find ourselves watching a Hallmark movie. These romantic comedies present consistently beautiful scenery and handsome, energetic characters. However, the plots are, with some exceptions, stereotypically the same: An attractive, sophisticated character accidently runs into a handsome, […]