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by Wayne Grant, M.D.
As some of you know I am a gardener. I love to see things grow from a little dried up seed to a lovely flowering plant. A beautiful garden does not just happen. For maximum success it needs to be watered, fed, and exposed to bright sunlight.
Our marriage relationship has much in common with the garden. A marriage does not just happen. For it to thrive, to reach its full potential, it needs to be cultivated.
For Veronica and me the wedding was indeed a life-changing event. But it was the first step of planting the seed of relationship. As we sought to occupy the same space, we quickly realized that we had much to learn. The seed of relationship planted at our wedding sprouted slowly and looked pretty scrawny at first. The one thing that kept our marriage alive and set it thriving was our commitment to make it work.
Thankfully we had help. Through the wise counsel of friends and healthy modeling of experienced encouragers, we realized growth. And we are excited that after 55 years of working the marriage garden we are still growing.
Along the way we have found many garden tools that helped us cultivate our marriage:
- Read an old, classic book on marriage. (For example: Intended for Pleasure by Dr. Ed Wheat, Men are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray).
- Read a modern, contemporary book on marriage (For example: Highly Happy Marriages by Shaunti Feldhahn)
- Attending a marriage seminar
- Experiencing a marriage retreat
- Maintaining a circle of couple friends
- Sharing a mutually rewarding activity (For us: Teaching Young Adult Sunday School together)
A perennial flower in the garden is either growing or fading. This is so true of our marriage. It is either growing brightly green or it is drying up and fading to a dull brown. The rewards of a growing marriage are bountiful. It is worth the effort!
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